My Call to Love

Monday, February 12, 2018

Seeking PEACE

Peace is the beauty of life. It is sunshine. It is the smile of a child, the love of a mother, the joy of a father, the togetherness of a family. It is the advancement of man, the victory of a just cause, the triumph of truth. --Menachem Begin

Seeking PEACE in 2018.

We love because he first loved us. 1 John 4:19

Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.

Colossians 3:13

Happy 2018! I hope this blog finds you all well. I have not posted much lately for many reasons, but wanted to catch up a bit. After our beloved homeschool tutorial closed unexpectedly before the 2016-2017 year, we tried new options for that school year, but they just did not work for our family. Life was growing busier with the kids getting older (almost 3 teenagers now!), and we made the hard decision that homeschool was not the best fit for all of the kids anymore. Ben and Jack are now at a wonderful private school near our home, Florie continues to enjoy homeschool, and Alex is finishing his senior year via dual enrollment. It is slowly sinking in that he leaves for college in the next 6 months. While the college search and application process was a busy time, Alex is very blessed to have multiple good options for college. He has the gift of being an easy-going person who loves his community and loves Jesus. I cannot wait to see where he goes in life. We will miss him desperately, but are so excited for this next phase of Alex!

Each year, I try to have a word(s) to focus on. In the past, "priorities" and "expectations" have been two such words. Although I am nowhere near mastering those words, (YET!) they remain part of our family's everyday vernacular and the word "peace" joins them for 2018. Peace is a concept that I have to work on....I want it, I crave it, and I find it when I am still and quiet. Peace is easiest on the days when we have no activities, when it is a crockpot dinner day, and when all the laundry is folded by 10 am! But, those days are few and far between. So, my challenge for 2018? How to find peace in the midst of chaos. I am working on a GOALS for 2018 list, and a PRIORITIES for 2018 list....so that I can reference these before I say "YES" to any extra activities. Nothing robs PEACE more than when I have overcommitted to too many activities. The activities I choose are all good when looked at individually, but when they all hit at once, I lose all focus of my peace, priorities, and expectations. That feeling of not being able to get enough air in takes over...and I become a grumpy mom, a distracted wife, and a crummy friend. Three things I detest! My prayer is that by listing my priorities ON PAPER, I will better be able to keep those PRIORITIES and choose activities/sign-ups more wisely.

A dear friend has also encouraged me to use an app to meditate each day....only 10 minutes. I started about a week ago and it really has helped. Part of the goal of this app is to train your mind to be calm and peaceful in the midst of the chaos. Sounds ideal. Will let you know how it goes. And lastly, our church has started a new app called "Read Scripture" that will let one read through the entire Bible in a year (or two....expectations, remember?!). How many times have I started to do this and stopped mid-March. I always find a sense of peace when I read the Word...as long as I do not turn it into a chore...

Goals for the year are many...will get to those in another post. For now, let's focus on FAMILY and PEACE.....being together creates a calmness for all of us, even though we bicker and fight sometimes. Being together brings comfort as we encourage one another to find our own individual uniqueness that makes us wonderfully and fearfully made.

In the last year, as a family,

We took our annual ski trip to Colorado

We found the Star Wars Lego Love

We had family time building new Legos

We visited art museums and looked over the city

Cool and thoughtful art projects were made

We baked cookies to sell to help others

The Tornado blew right threw our yard and over our house

We lost over 30 trees

but all were safe and we found out the our pup was a Jedi

Brothers and friends

Always creative....glasses without lenses and a crown for breakfast attire

We played chess together

and put up replacement trampolines together

12 year old trips were taken

Long hikes were enjoyed

We explored to zoo on rainy days when no one else wanted to go

And hiked on hot and buggy days to spend time outdoors

We loved on Dad for Father's Day

Puppy is noting that Alex is leaving for college in just a few months....she wants to keep him home

We got up at 4:30 am to practice soccer while Mom ran track

We drove to Assateague Island to see the wild ponies

And stopped in at Delaware for a brewery tour

Mom got to show off her alma mater

We loved on Alex for his last birthday at home...

Grandad joined us for the solar eclipse visible from our backyard

We ran for good causes

And played new sports

We dressed up for parties

And enjoyed quiet downtime at home

We "loved" on Alex

And found fish to catch at the beach

We soaked in beautiful sunsets

and created many, many things out of duct tape

We said goodbye to club soccer and an amazing coach

and took slow walks in the woods to just absorb

And we loved on each other in PEACE

“If you want to bring happiness to the whole world, go home and love your family.” Mother Teresa

1 Corinthians 13:4-7

Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

1 Corinthians 13:13

So now faith, hope, and love abide, these three; but the greatest of these is love.

Hoping for a year of PEACE for you and yours,

Love,

Eve

Friday, January 27, 2017

2016 at a Glance

The most beautiful moments always seemed to accelerate and slip beyond one's grasp just when you want to hold on to them as long as possible.

E.A. Bucchianeri

"I wish it need not have happened in my time," said Frodo.

"So do I," said Gandalf, " and so do all who live to see such times. But that is not for them to decide. All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given to us. "

J.R.R. Tolkien

The beginning of a new year always triggers a time of reflection for me. I think about memories shared, experiences created, bonds strengthened, and hope renewed. I have to work to NOT think about "wasted days," things I "should" have done, plans not fulfilled, and failed goals. The concept of TIME rears up again. I regret how often I say, " I just need more hours in the day." Yes, I realize that phrase is used to counter the guilt I feel for not accomplishing all that I hope on any given day....but there is some truth to it. I do not need more hours, but I do need restructured hours. Where do I allow my time to go? Is it to my family? Is it to friends with whom I have committed a deep, mutual friendship? Is it to connecting with God by reading His word? Or is it to Facebook, Instagram, or Pinterest on easily distractible topics that keep me from fully focusing? I know the answer. I don't like it, but I know it.

I set aside the month of January to limit my time on social media. We use the Circle with Disney app to limit/control our kids' internet access. It is my favorite app! I can also set time limits on myself, but I seem to always create an excuse for me....such as the need to follow the inauguration and the Women/s March....on Facebook. I was nauseated by the vile and hatred from both sides posted on FB, but I kept looking. I had the urge to keep searching until I found what I was looking for even though I had no idea what I wanted! I felt lost, out of control, uneasy. But, I was drawn in.

Thankfully, God intervened. I found Florie's notes from her time in the orphanage. We had them translated while we were in China. I have read them several times before, but not recently. She is almost 8 now, and I can see patterns in her personality from back then to now. It made me happy and it broke my heart. I just wanted to hold her and protect her from the lost feelings. I went to bed that night unable to sleep.....and the next morning, I awakened early for a run. I had to go early, and it was raining. I set out in the dark, in the rain, maybe feeling a little sorry for myself. THEN, it happened. The sky cleared, and the sun rise began. The hues of purple, pink and orange overwhelmed me. The beauty was tangible....I rounded a cul-de-sac, and behind me, was a full rainbow. My spirits lifted as I could feel God's presence....he is here. He is LOVE. He is RESPECT. He is DIGNITY. He is HOPE. And as quickly as the sunrise and rainbow appeared, they were gone....the rain returned, but my outlook had changed.

And the reflection began....here is a glimpse of what is important to me from the past year. 2015 was SO hard with losing my mom. The grief was overwhelming at times. 2016 was better. The pain of losing a loved one never leaves, it just fades and then knocks you in the face on occasion. I know Mom would have loved seeing all of these pictures, and that makes me smile.